Making Addictions Crystal Clear
Drugs and alcohol are part of our American culture. Their use is rampant among gay men, since the bars are a main social outlet. The anxiety of walking into a gay bar and hoping to meet Mr. Right, or even make friends, can be excruciating. Alcohol and drugs can help to ease that anxiety.
Crystal meth has been in the gay community for a while and has hit Michigan big over the past year. If I can speak in my Jewish Mother voice I would say that any use of crystal meth is going too far. But in my professional understanding of the gay culture, I know the reality is that gay men use it. So, how much use is going too far?Read more...
Don’t Minimize Your Partner’s Anger Problems
My husband gets angry a lot, I don’t deny that. It is unpleasant and sometimes even a little scary because he screams and says ugly things about me and makes threats. But eventually he always calms down and things blow over. Sometimes he even apologizes. He has never once hit me or choked me or sent me to the hospital. In the meantime, he works hard and makes a good living for me and the kids. I sometimes feel ungrateful because his anger bothers me. So many women have it worse than me. Still, I wish he could control his anger better. What should I do?
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A Woodworkers Story
Today at the age of 32, I am a well-established furniture maker, small business owner, and woodworking instructor. At the age of 7 my Father John Skapars introduced me to the fine art of woodworking. I can remember helping him install our homes living room floor in the suburban Boston, Massachusetts town of Dover. An interest was sparked, and a true passion was discovered. Being an excellent student, knowing what I want, and not being afraid of failure all contribute to my current success in this field today.Read more...
Say the Next Right Thing
Living a healthy life does not always come easy. If it did we wouldn’t have so many people struggling with destructive behaviors. If we continue in the struggle, there will eventually come a time where one is faced with a challenge related to the behavior, such as dealing with an addiction. For me, coming to terms with knowing I was an addict made my heart just ache. Knowing that I had to finally deal with something that threatened my life made me feel incredibly unsafe and vulnerable at times. And knowing that many people don’t understand the disease of addiction well enough to comprehend just how much of an impact it can have on someone mentally and emotionally, makes the situation all that much more difficult and confusing.Read more...